I’m sure you are all waiting with bated breath to see how A. has slept since I last left you, right? Before I get into how the next 24 hours played out, let me share with you a few resources I have enjoyed over the years and recently as I have been seeking for some answers on gently encouraging our babies to sleep for good, long stretches.
Parenting styles often lead to heated debates as parents join one ‘camp’ or the other. Either you are a heartless cry-it-outer or a sleep-martyr-co-sleeper. I am finding that as I tuck more parenting years under my belt I am becoming far less judgmental than I was as a brand-new 21 year-old attachment parenting mama. We all love our babies, we all want what is best for them and we are all doing the best we can with what we have been given.
Onto my favourite resources.
The 90-Minute Baby Sleep Program by Polly Moore
Sleeping Through the Night by Jodi Mindell
The Lull-A-Baby Sleep Plan by Cathryn Tobin
Nighttime Parenting by William Sears
Secrets of the BabyWhisperer by Tracey Hogg
The Essential Infant Resource for Moms has a lot of good information with ideas for different parenting styles.
The Baby Sleep Site is a wealth of information. She seems like a compassionate and knowledgeable mother/professional who offers support services for a fee as well. I haven’t purchased any of her resources, but her free information is excellent.
Our last 24 hours:
7:02am Woke up for the day
8:10am Bedtime Routine/Soothing
8:19am Fell asleep on own in co-sleeper for Nap One
9:47am Woke up (Nap One 1h 27 mins)
Now, here is where things break down. A. had an appointment for a hearing screen at 12:30pm. I was instructed to have him there asleep, so I had to try to gently hold off on his nap, while not overstimulating him. So, he fell asleep in the sling in his snowsuit, so I could transfer him to the car when it was time to leave.
11:49am Fell asleep in sling; transferred to car
12:26pm Woke up at Hearing Test when taken out of the car (Nap Two 37 minutes. He was happy enough, but obviously would have slept much longer at home in bed.)
1:13pm Fell asleep driving home
1:29pm Woke up upon arriving home (19 minutes — hardly a nap)
Now we went to my parents’ place for weekly pizza night. He slept in the sling there.
3:08pm Fell asleep in sling for Nap Three
4:18pm Woke up (Nap Three 1h 10mins — another fairly short nap; poor baby.)
At home, now.
7:05pm Bedtime Routine/Soothing
7:16pm Fell asleep for the night (was a little off because of junky sleep today, I’d say)
Steve and I headed off to bed early. No matter what, A. almost always senses when I begin to drift off and he will start to fuss. On a good night, he settles himself. On a bad night, he needs help. Interestingly, in talking with some friends, this seems to be a very common occurrence.
9:55pm Woke up; Soothing Routine begun
10:00pm Fell Asleep
3:36am Woke Up and Nursed for 10 mins
3:46am Returned to co-sleeper; fidgety and fussing — needed help to resettle, did Soothing Routine
3:51am Fell asleep
6:33am Awake for the day
All things considered, I was quite happy with how the night went. Both Steve and I are feeling significantly better rested already. Unfortunately, we have a couple of days where A. will not be able to sleep in his bed all the time. For example this morning (which I will review tomorrow), we had our weekly errand/date. A. is clearly getting too old to sleep soundly as we haul him in and out of the car and it was a morning of junky, broken sleep. Unfortunately, he is too little to stay at home with his siblings, so we will just have to live with it.
Tonight, Steve and I and A. are going to a fundraiser dinner/dance that starts at A.’s bedtime. And, to make matters worse, Sunday night is our weekly homechurch meeting that usually goes until about 8:30pm. I thought it might still be helpful to blog about our sleep teaching this week because I am sure you also have busy lives that don’t necessarily see your children in bed every single night of the week when they should be. I really do feel terribly guilty about this for my little ones, but homechurch is very important to us, so I am just praying that God will make up for the one night a week where we are out later than we should be.