Last night wasn’t a great sleep night. At the beginning of our sleep teaching, I had high hopes that we would just get longer and longer periods of night-sleep until A. was going from 7pm to 7am without a peep. Realistically, I knew this wouldn’t really happen, but a girl can dream, right?
In the big picture, though, we are doing really well and I am feeling so much better rested. I am expecting we will continue to see progress. Today Nicole, from The Baby Sleep Site, posted the exact article that I needed to read, entitled, “How Sleep Training Progress Looks“. She explained that although it would be wonderful if it were so, teaching a baby to sleep is not usually a smooth linear progression, but sometimes more of a roller-coaster. She also busted the myth that it would be much better by the 3rd or 4th night, saying that she generally finds couples see a big difference in 1-2 weeks.
Jodi Mindell, author of the book, Sleeping Through the Night, also reminds parents that sleep teaching is not something that will need to be done once and never again. Many things can cause setbacks and necessitate some re-teaching, things such as:
- Special Occasions
- Teething (Jodi says this is often wrongly blamed and hyped up as more of an issue than it really is.)
- Developmental Milestones (such as rolling over and standing up in the crib)
- Toilet Training
- Switching to a Bed
- The Birth of a New Baby
- Time Changes and Longer Days
- Going Back to Work
- Separation and Divorce
- Death in the Family
- I would also add Starting Solids
The key is to be mindful that while these things may temporarily cause disturbances in a child’s (and parent’s!) sleep, if we want our children to return to peaceful sleep, we need to be sure we don’t allow old habits to begin again. For example, while of course I would nurse a little one several times a night who is struggling with an illness, when the illness is over, I will gently return that baby to his/her previous night-feeding routine as opposed to falling into the easy habit of simply nursing on every waking long after the illness is gone.
Our last 24 hours:
6:58am Woke for the day
8:32am Bedtime Routine/Soothing (12 mins)
8:44am Fell asleep for Nap One
9:48am Woke Up (Nap One 1h 4 mins)
11:24am Bedtime Routine/Soothing (11 mins)
11:35am Fell asleep for Nap Two
12:23pm Woke Up (Nap Two 48 mins)
1:53pm Bedtime Routine/Soothing (12 mins)
2:05pm Fell asleep for Nap Three
3:44pm Woke Up (Nap Three 1h 39 mins)
5:20pm Bedtime Routine/Soothing (after 15 mins, we were making no progress. I was starting to think A. wasn’t tired, since he often drops this last nap. Great for us, since Steve and I were planning a fancy, adults-only, at-home Valentine’s Dinner!)
6:33pm Bedtime Routine/Soothing (9 mins)
6:42pm Fell asleep for the night
11:59pm Woke Up; Soothed for 4 mins, but A. was screaming. Decided to nurse (9 minutes).
12:13pm Back to Sleep in co-sleeper
2:53am Woke Up (Again?!); soothed back to sleep
3:07am Fell Asleep in co-sleeper
3:58am Woke Up (Huh?!); nursed this time (9 mins)
4:08am Back to Sleep in co-sleeper
7:43am Woke up for the day
I was grateful for that last few hours of sleep!